If growing up were easy, everyone would do it. For many years, I was dedicated to growing up. That meant unraveling reactions and patterns that plagued me—especially in relationships. Pulling back. Lashing out. Being passive-aggressive. Feeling weakened and stuck in emotional sludge. It meant facing parts of myself. Mourning the loss of ideas and dreams my younger self held so closely. It meant a lot of mother-wound work. What I learned is that there’s a big difference between the idea  of...

There is nothing more powerful than a human who can relate to the ISNESS that is here (the emotion, the reaction, the challenge, the goodness) AS A BODY.   I didn’t know. I used to feel quite helpless, overwhelmed, pissed off, and super stressed—all the time. I had no idea how to meet the ISNESS that was arising in an empowered way. Everything felt hard and unfair.   I had some great coping skills (super busy and a workaholic, savior for everyone in my life, and lots of physical activity),...

Stop asking directions.  This is something I’ve been walking with lately—and by walking, I mean limping, because my hip has been hurting,...