Do You Dare? Moving Beyond Anxious Attachment

"May you dare to enter into relationship with what is both unknowable and excruciatingly intimate.”

-Sadee Whip

What It Means to Move Through Anxious Attachment

My friend Whitney Ullom shared this quote in her Mother Fire Circle last Sunday. (Highly recommend) It encapsulates so much of what I am often reckoning with. 

How deeply I care about this BODY work, and how much it matters to me to dare. 

This work I offer has the potential to drastically change lives and the world. To create freedom, and depth, and aliveness that so many people are longing for.

And yet…..there are so many that don’t dare. 

Many people don’t realize that what feels like hesitation or self-protection is often anxious attachment showing up in subtle ways.

How Anxious Attachment Shapes Our Capacity to Dare

I get it. It takes a lot of courage to meet yourself, to dive into those places, to choose to feel, to unwind, to free yourself. 

But I know what’s at stake, how much it matters to dare. 

Life. Life with a capital L. That’s what’s at stake. Your life. Your fire, your soul-essence, getting to be true to that, to have rich deep experience of being alive and is uniquely yours. 

With anxious attachment, there is often a deep desire for connection paired with fear of what will happen if we fully show up. Part of moving through anxious attachment is learning to stay present with intensity instead of contracting away from it.

Moving Beyond Anxious Attachment Into Embodied Trust

What looks like resistance to change or growth is often actually anxious attachment, trying to keep us safe in the familiar. As anxious attachment begins to soften, there is more capacity to stay open to life, even when it feels uncertain or vulnerable.

I often hear Mary Oliver’s words in my head. “ Tell me, what is it you plan to do

with your one wild and precious life?” 

I will dare. And I will keep daring everyday, and I will support others in their daring as well. 

Want to come dare with me?